sooo ticked off ...damn mil

[Knitting24/7]

ohhh i hate that women.
I had no choice but to send the boys over there while dh and i worked (our shifts overlapped by 1 hour )
then when they drop the boys off i see trey scratching his butt I was like wth. here all i had to do what move his waist band just a bit...that fricken witch had put a sposie on him...now his whole bottom
(every part touching the sposie) is bright red.
I sent 3 diapers over there for just 1 hours time. (one never knows lol)grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrr
my oldest says he tells her NOT to use those and you know what she says to him..."shh its our secret I will take it off before you guys go home"
this is not the first time. why does that women never ever listen?

[Susan_WW]

You should make sure to go back over there and show her how red your ds's bottom is and ask her if she thinks he looks comfortable now with a bright red rash :roll:

Ugh! She should just mind her own business!

[Adamina]

I agree with Susan. You definitely should show her what a disposable diaper does to him. If she continues to put them on him knowing that, it's just plain irresponsible.

Poor little guy. :-(

[Sabrina]

Oh, that is REALLY crappy! I really hate that whole "ssshhhh, it's our little secret, thing", also. I don't want my child to ever think it's ok to keep secrets from me because another adult tells them to. That's setting up some bad things.
Plus, why is it that in-laws can't just respect your parenting choices. I mean, how much harder is it to use the cloth? They aren't even washing them!
I am so sorry you have to deal w/that. Can you tell I go through they same things (w/my in-laws when we lived near them and now w/my parents, but that's a whole long story).

:hug

[Sabrina]

Oh, and I definately agree w/Susan. Go back over there and say, "See, *this* is why we don't use those things. Maybe next time you'll use the diapers I send w/him.".

[mamapez]

:( I'm sorry to hear about the underhandedness. :hug

[hunnybumm]

Sadly it sounds like your MIL already knows what the sposies do to his bottom but she just doesn't care. AND that just isn't right at all. I don't know what it is about people and thinking cloth is weird and not wanting to use it.

Luckily I have never had to leave Tristan alone with anyone who would disrespect my wishes. But my grandma is exactly like your MIL. It's her way or the high way, and if it's something she knows she is not suppose to be doing it's a 'secret' and we won't tell anyone. I remember all the crap she use to do to us (putting a ton of gel in our hair and forcing it into a tight pony tail, cuting our hair, putting embaressing cloths on us when we had brought our own clothes, etc.) and she will never be left alone with my DS.

Luckily we live far away from her (but sadly far away from the rest of my family in the same respect) but if we ever had to leave DS with someone I have a ton of backups that live in the same town. SOO DS will never be put in that situation... thank goodness.

I can just see her cutting DSs beautiful curly hair, locking him in a room for 'time out' (at 13 months), forcing him to eat food he hates, etc just because she is that controling.

WOW, I guess I just vented too... ;)

[Sabrina]

Wow, your grandmother sounds like my mom.

[BethyM99]

Wow, is he allergic to the sposie? That's a pretty serious reaction. You said they were only there an hour? If it was longer I'd swear he sat around in it for hours. :( How terrible to not have your wishes respected. I think you need to address it or have DH address it otherwise it will happen time and time again.

[BethyM99]

Oh, and does she know how to use the cloth you send? I know for my MIL I have to send prefolds and pins. he can't do the snappi's, AIOs, or fitteds.... so, that's what I send. You could always approach it that way...

DS had a terrible rash from the disposable, I'm so sorry I forgot to show you how to use the diaprs he needs to wear. Let me show you... and then you can go on about how miserable the poor dear is.

[littleturtlemama]

my first thought ws take him back and show her his bum, also. Then, go through the house and get rid of whatever sposie stash she's got hiding there! Tell her flat out that you won't leave him inher care or let her near him if she continues to endager his well-being like that. :mad

[imonion]

Oh man, I'd be so ticked, too! Poor baby :((( Yes, definitely let her know how red his bum is and have your dh tell her in no uncertain terms that those games she is playing are not allowed.

Ugh...

[Knitting24/7]

my first thought ws take him back and show her his bum, also. Then, go through the house and get rid of whatever sposie stash she's got hiding there! Tell her flat out that you won't leave him inher care or let her near him if she continues to endager his well-being like that. :mad
omg totally thats what i had to do with all the bottles and pacifiers she insisted he "LEARN" to use.
there is no talking to her. I have tried over the last 5 yrs and its no use. the funny thing is we got along before ds1 was born.
So thats 5 yrs tomorrow of misery

[Aurora]

I would be soooooooooooooo pissed! :getu I would show her exactly what her actions did to your poor little guy's bottom. (My dd reacted exactly the same way to sposies. That is why we switched to cloth.) If she refuses to use cloth on your babe I would tell her she won't be watching them then. :getu

[pmcgary]

Hmm, maybe she did the disposie to make you mad so you wouldn't ask her to watch him again??????? (Passive aggressive I know.....) OF course that seems unlikely but so does going so directly against your wishes.

My MIL would never have done that...She would have done what I asked - then talked about me behind my back.

[Knitting24/7]

the trouble is she is extremly mainstream. she hates that we co sleeo and has made that known since day 1. the funniest thing ever was she tried to bitch to my mom about it and said..."where did they learn that" and my mother looks at her and says..."me and her father" boooooya in your face.
She is totally June cleever. sposie were just coming out when we were babies and my mil was the first on board as well as her abuse of formula caused my dh's diabetis.

[CraftyMommaOf2]

i'm jsut gonna give you a :bighug because i think everyone else has said what i would say. totally dirty what she's doing.

[drea2447]

I would be totally peeved also. You should tell your older ds to tell anyone who says"shhh, it's our secret", that he doesn't keep secrets from his mama. My dh and I have a no secret rule and we taught our kids that a secret is something that you're expected to never tell and a surprise is something that you have to wait a little while to tell.

I would probably also give my mil an earful on my wishes and respecting my parenting choices.

Good luck....

[9wildthings]

I am not sure if I would be more pissed about the 'sposie, or about her telling your other child to keep a secret from you. Both are dirty play in my book. My two youngest ds also had terrible rashes from 'sposies when I tried to use them for *convenience* (once while camping, once when I was in the hospital). It sucks that she is underhanded. I would much rather have someone say to me "I really have a hard time using cloth. I would prefer to use disposable.", so that we can discuss it. Ugh. I am sorry.