OT - crap. i need a hug, isn't that lame?

[averymybaby]

I'm not going to go into details because I'd bore all of you to tears, but I really need a hug right now. Huge, H-U-G-E monumental fight with DH. Feeling like I A) might not ever get to have any more children because my house is not clean enough and B) might not even be married much longer because I don't fit the requirements. Thank goodness DH is out for the evening and I have my squishy here with me playing quietly on the floor. And thank goodness for the distractions of knitting and the internet. And lame ass Christmas music. OMG, I am such a housewife cliche. But... I really do need a hug. And there's really no one to give me one right now. I tried giving myself one but it didn't really work and my arms got tired. snow :rain

[Jester]

:grouphug :grouphug :hug :hug :bighug :bighug

[Ruth]

:bighug :hug

There are a couple to keep you going. Sorry you're sad.

I'm sure your house isn't as filthy as mine LOL. Luckily, because we're a WAHFamily my DH is in charge of cleaning so I don't have to feel so bad about it.

It's not lame to need a hug, we all do sometimes.

Have some more

:hug :hug :hug :hug

Hope you feel better soon. Hugging my babies usually makes me feel better.

[CraftyMommaOf2]

((((((Julia!))))))

Just remember that things are said in the heat of the moment that ppl don't really mean.

:hug :grouphug :bighug :hug :grouphug :bighug :hug :grouphug :bighug

[KaliD]

:hug :bighug :grouphug :bighug :hug

and this guy/gal cause it makes me smile --> :baa

Hope you and yours are feeling back to sorts soon

:hug

[pmcgary]

Okay, I don't remember who said it, but I love it....
Cleaning a house when you have kids is like shovelling snow in a blizzard...(and since I am at quick reply I don't think I can do a smiley hug....what they all said before me plus one!

[knittingnana]

:grouphug :bighug
Things will get better! They always do! We have been married for 33 years! They can be pains!
:knit :wool

[Meredith]

:bighug I Love You, Julia!

[twouglyducks]

:hugs Julia!!! I'm sorry you're feeling so down about things. It gets rough sometimes when we're married to [strike:f87a05af6d]jerks[/strike:f87a05af6d] men. :hug :hug :hug :knit away, but watch the tension. I know when I'm upset with dh (ummm... always?) my knitting tends to get a bit tighter than normal

[littleturtlemama]

it was phyllis diller who said the snow shovellign thing, LOL, I've got it typed up and posted on my fridge ;)

Big huge hugs and Smooches to you :hug

[Nada]

i totally love the phyllis diller saying :thumb

:bighug to you Julia, hang in there...

Nada

[pmcgary]

That's who I thought said it but I wasn't positive....

[imonion]

Aww Julia :hugs I'm sorry you had such a bad fight with dh. I swear, men really are from different planets sometimes!

[radish]

oh mama, i am so sorry too, DH can be a PITA sometimes and he has no idea how hurtful some of the things he *casually* says are to me. men ARE from different planets. HUGS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Sabrina]

:grouphug :bighug
If you were nearby, I would share my chardonnay and :pie w/you. And that's not an offer I make to just anyone. ;)



:fakeeye (dd wanted me to add this one since she is always telling me that "why couldn't the 11 yr old get into the pirate movie" joke. She loves pirates, LOL)

Seriously though, I'm sorry your dh is being such a butthead. I swear, when men were made, their filters were forgotten.

[lifetapestry]

In our home, if it isn't clean enough it's because DH isn't doing his usual anal-retentive daily scrubbing of the kitchen and his rearranging of anything out of place . . . but that's neither here nor there . . . I say this mainly to say that I think the spouse who doesn't generally clean has no real right to point out that the house isn't clean enough for his/her standards.

I also think that it's pretty normal to sometimes feel, argument or no argument, that you're not going to be married much longer. It can really be tough going at times and I hope you hit a smooth patch soon.

Hug,
Karla

[Nada]

I swear, when men were made, their filters were forgotten.

Ooooh, I like that one... dh doesn't :LOL

Nada :love

[RufusBeans]

Sweetie,
we all love you. :hug

[averymybaby]

Thanks, everybody.

I really appreciate it. :butterfly

[geowalkmama]

:hug :heart :bighug

they make you want to :bang their head into a brick wall some times don't they.

:hug :heart :bighug

[mamapez]

:hug I am sorry to hear about rough times. I hate big fights, nobody is happy. :(

Hang in there and hug your little one. :)


My favorite man joke:

Q: What is the useless flap of skin on the end of a penis?















A. A man. :moon

[Sabrina]

Haaahaaahaaahaaa. OMG, that is too funny. I think dh thought I lost my mind, I just laughed so loud. :LOL

[pamelamama]

Oh no, Julia,I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

Hang in there... motherhood and marriage are two very hard jobs.

Don't doubt that the work you do is so very very important.

[mommomrebecca]

Oh, Julia, :bighug :bighug :bighug Everything will work out. You will have more babies. Your house will probably stay dirty, but you will stay married and love it. I just had a world class lame-o fight and am sending you another :bighug

[norcalmommy]

Julia, :hug , I'm sorry you guys had a fight. Guys can be so idiotic sometimes. Take a deep breath...count your blessings...this too shall pass.

Someone gave me some words of wisdom one time when I was discussing the cleanliness (or lack thereof) of our home: when you look back in 10, 20 years are you really going to think, "gosh I wished I had mopped the floor more often?" No. You're going to remember the important things in life like cherishing your little one and taking the best care of her that you are able.

Hang in there mama, we are here :grouphug if you need ANYTHING!!!

[amyrobynne]

:hug
:bighug

[indiegirl]

I hope it all works out for you. Your job is so important and I know how hard it is to nurture the relationship and the kids--not to mention yourself.

Hang in there and take some deep breaths.

Jesse

[meco]

:hug

:grouphug

mama, I am so sorry :( I hope you have a better night.

[mhurst]

:grouphug :grouphug :hug
I hope you are feeling better about things today. Hang in there!